Every song, book, movie, and magazine promotes the fantasy of falling in love with that special person. The reality is the book is fiction, the movie is based on actors portraying loving couples, and the magazine’s stories are about as accurate as the airbrushed and photo shopped pictures that adorn them.
Now that I have your attention falling in love and being in love can be wonderful and healthy. Humans are social beings. It’s natural to want to share your life with that special person. But how do you know if you have a healthy outlook on love?
Possible warning signs of love addiction:
Like other forms of addiction, love addiction can cause you to neglect your family, friends, work and other responsibilities.
Love addicts often are codependent and use techniques like enabling, caretaking, rescuing, and passive-aggressive behavior to cope with or control neglectful or abusive relationships hoping that their feelings will be reciprocated.
Love addicts suffer from anxiety and depression. When a relationship ends, anxiety and depression can become overwhelming, sometimes leading to an individual seeking counseling.
If you think you might be a love addict and you recognize yourself in these signs and symptoms, Al-Anon (http://www.alanon-maryland.org/) a self help group, as well as your Lawyer Assistance Program may be helpful.
This Tip Sheet has been written by Lisa Caplan. Lisa is a Licensed Certified Social Worker at the clinical level (LCSW-C) and a Certified Addictions Counselor (CAC). She has over 15 years experience in her field, and extensive experience working with lawyers and judges in the areas of mental health substance abuse and trauma.
Please contact the Lawyer Assistance Program for free, confidential assistance. Jim Quinn, Lawyer Assistance Director, 443.703.3041, firstname.lastname@example.org; Lisa Caplan, LCSW-C, CAC, Lawyer Assistance Counselor, 443.703.3042, email@example.com. Toll free 800.492.1964