It has been long believed that if someone starts drinking heavily or binge drinking that they are emotionally stuck at the age they began drinking. For example, if you started drinking at 16 and you are now 30, the belief is that you are emotionally managing your life as a 16 year old. This belief applies to other drugs as well.
Whether you believe this or not, most people who go into recovery believe that they do not have the emotional or coping skills to manage their life and some of the inherent difficulties. Most people report starting to use or abuse substances as a teenager.
A teenager’s brain is still developing and therefore very vulnerable to damage. Alcohol or drug use, whether daily or binging, can damage parts of the brain that effect behavior, learning, and remembering.
Teenager’s report starting to drink and/or use to:
Using alcohol or other drugs appears to “help” all of the above. It helps to “make everything better” because you don’t have to deal with the real problem. It makes you believe that all your problems don’t exist. Using helps the person live off the “high” or effects of the alcohol or drugs which allows them to not have to learn how to cope with these very real feelings and concerns. It gives you a false sense of handling your life. Instead of dealing with your concerns you drink or use which seems to make it all go away. You stuff the feelings down. Instead of trying to manage your life and relationships you avoid concerns because you don’t have the skills to communicate how you feel or affectively work through problems.
Alcohol and drug use masks the real problems and therefore when you stop using you have to learn coping skills which may include:
Learning to manage your life in a healthy way can be very challenging when you are use to drinking or drugging away your concerns. It takes trying new behaviors and taking risks that may be uncomfortable, such as telling someone how you feel instead of laughing it off or ignoring it. Ignoring how you feel just builds resentment and anger.
For assistance, please contact the Lawyer Assistance Program for free, confidential counseling. We have a network of counselors throughout Maryland. Jim Quinn, Lawyer Assistance Director, (443) 703-3041, firstname.lastname@example.org; Lisa Caplan, LCSW-C, Associate Director of the Lawyer Assistance Program, (443) 703-3042, email@example.com. 24/7 Toll Free 1(888) 388-5459.
Lisa Caplan, LCSW-C has over 20 years experience in her field, and extensive experience working with lawyers and judges in the areas of mental health, substance abuse and trauma.