By Lisa Caplan
We have all had people in our lives say things to us that are hurtful or treat us in a way that is not nice. Whether it is someone close to you or a complete stranger, it’s understandable to internalize what they say or how they treat you, even believe it, or think we deserve the treatment and take ownership of it. We may blame ourselves for doing something or saying something wrong. We all can admit that at one time or another what someone has done or said to us has had an impact on how we feel about ourselves.
But, why assume it’s you? Why not assume it is the other person? Why are you taking this on? I believe that if we don’t build a healthy self-esteem, then we take on what others say and how they treat us as our problem. We don’t typically assume it is their problem, and that how they think and feel has nothing to do with us. So, what do we do about it?
First, you must understand what projection is:
How to minimize the impact of projection:
For assistance, please contact the Lawyer Assistance Program for free, confidential counseling. We have a network of counselors throughout Maryland. Jim Quinn, Director, (443) 703-3041, firstname.lastname@example.org; Lisa Caplan, LCSW-C, Associate Director, (443) 703-3042, email@example.com. 24/7 Toll Free line 1 (888) 388-5459.
Lisa Caplan, LCSW-C has over 20 years experience in her field, and extensive experience working with lawyers and judges in the areas of mental health, substance abuse and trauma. In her free time she enjoys spending time with family and friends, paddle boarding, sailing, rock climbing, and training for triathlons.