By Lisa Caplan
People fit into our lives in different ways, and there are different types of friendships. If we are lucky, we will have a handful of close friends. So, what qualifies someone as a close friend? I think it is easier to look at other types of friendships first:
Let’s start with casual friendship, or more appropriately, an acquaintance of convenience. This is the person who calls only when they need something. This may occur a few times a year, but not a whole lot more than that. The person who falls into this category may be someone you work with or have gone to school with.
Next, there are acquaintances of mutual interests. It’s easy to be a friend when you have a reason to see someone regularly. For example, at your child’s sport events, school, work, yoga, or a golfing buddy. The activity is the glue that keeps your friendship going. Often when the activity ends, the friendship does too.
Finally, there is close friendship. Although there is nothing wrong with the first two friendships, a close friendship is a very special type of bond you only have with a small number of people. So, what makes a close friendship?
Traits you must have to create healthy friendships:
Why people are drawn to each other:
When looking to make new friendships, keep in mind that it is a process that takes time. You need to see how this person will fit into your life. No matter if they become an acquaintance, a friend of convenience, or over time become a close friend, all friendships are special and have a place in our lives.
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Lisa Caplan, LCSW-C has over 20 years experience in her field, and extensive experience working with lawyers and judges in the areas of mental health, substance abuse and trauma.